Part 4
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Christ in me is my source of unlimited potential.

Kingdom Within

Right here where I am, right now in this moment, I give my full attention to the king­dom of God, the Christ consciousness that is within me. In an
all-pervading realization of the Christ as my source of divine understanding, I give expression to divine qualities.

Through the Christ of my being, I express the highest and best thoughts, words, and behaviors. Unlimited possibilities await me as I express the Christ within.

Looking beyond current circumstances, I perceive my life with clarity. I see past seeming obstacles to the potential that lies within each new day. Christ in me is my source of unlimited potential. I am moving forward in accepting and fulfilling my divine potential day by day.

Daily Word, June 28th 2006

The following information was channeled by Flo Aeveia Magdalena from The Ones With No Names. This is a wonderful article about bringing up the Christ Child. There are some things in the article I don't agree with, such as, when the Soul enters the body of the fetus. But, as a spirit once told me, "the Heavens are vast, and who knows the ways of God". In the end we will all know the truth. Probably the best approach to this information is to use what you can and disregard the rest.

BIRTHING AND RAISING CHILDREN
TO LIVE THEIR POTENTIAL
AS BEINGS OF LIGHT
by
Flo Aeveia Magdalena
Copyright 2000

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Birthing and Raising Children

When a child determines that it will be born, its soul goes through an intricate and delightful process of discovery and choice making. Optimally, when it is born it understands who it is, why it has come, and what it will accomplish in the time it has chosen to be on the planet Earth. The connection that this child has to the universe is great. It knows it is light, it knows it is immortal. The child knows that the choices it makes are important for its own development and for the development of all other people and all other souls. The child understands that it is one with all souls. It is reminded that on Earth many people have amnesia. They do not remember that they are one with all things and that they can live in peace and harmony. The child is reminded that sometimes people live separately from themselves, from others, and from the creative source, which is called god or monad.

Parents have perhaps the most important job on the planet because they work with these souls who remember their divinity, the souls of those who are here to bring peace to the planet. You are privileged because the souls that are part of your life have the wisdom to guide you into the future. And at the same time, they need to remember and understand, specifically and clearly, why they are here, how they can serve, and what it is like to be in the physical body.

It is important for the parents, particularly the mother, to support the process of soul within the child and to be in touch with its spiritual aspect. When parents do this, they help the child and reunite with their own spiritual essence. Every child has a specific attunement to the dimension of spirit and to the design for what it is here to accomplish. The more in tune the parents are with the awareness of the child and its design, the more clearly they can facilitate that design in their child's life.

The Swing Between Worlds

Before birth each soul has an opportunity to have an experience in a place called the Swing Between Worlds. This is the place of choice and understanding. It is in the very center of the universe, where everything is known, seen, and remembered. The souls of all people have been to the Swing Between Worlds where they have chosen how their life and learning will be established. There the soul sees everything—past, present, future, parallel reality, and simultaneous reality. Each soul knows what it has accomplished and what it desires to accomplish in a particular life. A group of light beings, The Ones with No Names, have a conversation with each soul before birth. They and the soul create a travel package for that soul's life on earth. They decide where it is going, its itinerary, and what that life is going to be about. They particularly decide what type of learning the soul will experience. They decide what the soul will contribute and what its mission and purpose will be.

Then they create a design for how this mission will be accomplished. Each soul has a unique blueprint for affecting earth reality. This blueprint is encoded on a very deep level into the soul in the Swing before birth. Although the soul chooses the path it wishes to take in a lifetime, it also has free will, which means that the person can change the design if he or she chooses. However, the design always stays imprinted on the soul and the information is always available.

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The soul chooses its parents and the moment of birth so that astrologically it will be supported in its life design. The soul chooses to remember its destiny and the union of all souls. At just the right time, the soul is launched like a rocket through space and time, energetically, beginning its journey from spirit into form, from light into dark, from the union of all being into a place called earth.

The Seed of Light

Implanted in each soul is a point of light called The Seed of Light. This seed contains the memory and vision of the design for that lifetime. It is planted in the soul space in the center of the body underneath the xiphoid process, [the posterior segment of the sternum] which is the pointed bone that divides the left from the right rib cage. In that place is housed the soul, the part of us that remembers all that we have, all that we are, and all that we will be.

The awareness of the larger design for humankind is also planted in The Seed of Light. The time in which we are living is the coming together of the ages into a unity that has not been known before. Within the Seed of Light, then, is the memory of who you are, why you have come, and the image of what it will be like when you and others remember that you are one and begin to work together in harmony and in peace, In the Seed is the plan to actualize the potential and the destiny. Therefore, there can be an alignment of souls where the truth of all the kingdoms can be known.

The children who are with you and the children who are coming have visions such as no other generation has had. They will see more clearly than any other generation. If the parents align with the energy of the child's awareness, they will also be able to see the greater design, the design called the Hologram. The children are bringing the message of unity.

The Life's Vision

When a child is born it is important to stimulate the memory housed inside the soul and to support and unify with it as much as possible. When this is done, the child lives from the memory of union and is not afraid in the world. The child is more creative and productive. It does not separate from itself as light or from universal awareness.

When parents help decode the message, the life's vision, they help the child experience that message from the day of its birth. If the parents, particularly the mother, are in a space of unity and awareness of the child's spirit at the moment of birth, then the child will be "home" immediately. It will go down the tunnel, through the chambers of time and space, and arrive able to resume its spiritual calling without delay. The life's vision will be clear.

Such children can walk in truth from the day of their birth. They are centered in their body, in their purpose, in their mind, in their heart, and in their soul. These children are less influenced than others by beliefs of fear and judgment. They have an easier time than those who do not have this clarity from the first moment. The mother, particularly, has a unique opportunity to help the child remember its calling from the first moment. This is the most crucial role that either parent can play.

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Connect with the Child's Soul Before Birth

In order to assure this remembrance in the children, it is advisable for the mothers to connect with the soul of the child as soon as they learn they will be giving birth. The soul does not enter the body before birth. However, it is around the physical body of the mother before birth, and communication is not only possible, but necessary. The mother perceives of the soul of the child as light, a tiny light, around her. She and this light can communicate.

She can send her light, which she has in the center of her chest, out into the area around her body, and join with the light of the child. She can imagine that her light and the light of the child become one. That is their communication, and in their communication is connection, bonding, and union.

At about six months gestation, it is advisable for the mother to place her womb in light, to fill her body with light. As the child's soul begins to anchor into its physical body, then, there will be a connection with the light within the womb of the mother. This is done so that the child can be born in light.

You can even connect to the soul of the child and talk with it. Do that by connecting with the Seed of Light within your soul. Drop down into that place called your soul underneath your xiphoid process in the center of your sternum. Put your hand there to mark that spot. Put your energy there and rest there for a time. Hold steady. Listen. Breathe. Carry the breath into and out of the soul. Practice this.

Then imagine the child's soul outside you, separate from you so that the unification is more profound. Have the sense that you're drawing something to you and make a circle with it.

Go down into your body, into your soul. Ask to be connected to the soul of the child. You will feel a connection, a sensation, a pulsation, a quickening, a warmth. Then make an arc outward and imagine that the soul of the child is right outside your body. Go into its soul and come back to yourself. Go into its soul and come back to yourself.

Now this is very important: people think that red lights go on or something physical happens so you know you've connected. It doesn't work that way. It's very subtle. It's more like finding the self, experiencing and understanding the self. It's finding a comradeship, kinship, or communication. Go into that soul and come back, creating a circle of connection.

The first few times you do this, try not to go into your brain and evaluate it. "Did I do it? What is my judgment of it? What was this?" Just do it. Every day you can state an intention if you want, that you will connect with the soul of the child for the highest good of all concerned, and you will exchange information and energy.

When the child's soul begins to unify with yours, you'll get a stronger and stronger sensation of that. Most probably you will experience it to some degree in your heart. You'll be able to validate that this is occurring because you will feel a connection. Then you'll find the connection growing and evolving, and the circle getting bigger. You can experience some of what the child is able to experience while you're doing this. You can be aware, to some degree, of their spiritual perception of their existence. You begin to have connection with the angels and with those aspects within yourself that are spiritual.

It's very important to foster this connection. Carry it with you through pregnancy and delivery. You will feel directed. You will know just what to eat. You will know what's good for the child because you'll be getting that information. You'll start to listen to your inner wisdom. Places within you will speak to you. And the more you speak with the child and communicate your love and blessing, the more the child will trust the process of birth and relax. Then the birth will be easier, and that's very important because birth is the foundation for the experience of life.

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In order to make the transition easier from spirit into form, it's important that the child be placed in light so that it can imagine, as it is born, that coming into form is only coming into a vehicle where the light can still shine and be bright. It will still be possible to unify with all other lights. The infant will sense that form is a body where action and creation can take place, and at the same time the light is not impeded in any way.

When a child is born in light, it remembers what is housed in the Seed of Light within the soul. When a child is not born in light, it experiences a separation and trauma at birth because it knows it is light but cannot find it in this place. It experiences life as dense. The vibrations feel coarse, consolidated, compacted. It wishes to fly again, to be free. It wishes to know all things and all life, but it finds itself in a container that is closed.

When a child is born it is important to stimulate this memory housed inside of the soul. It is important to support it and to unify with it as much as possible, so that the child lives through the memory of union and is not afraid in the world, is more creative and productive, and is not separate from itself as light and from all universal aspects and awareness.

Think for a moment of the difference between spirit and form. Imagine how much difference there is in vibration and density. Then you have some inkling of what it is like for a child to enter into a foreign, dense form from an open, etheric, beautiful spiritual sense of being.

The Birth Process: Instructions for Mothers

The energy of the etheric and the energy of form are, of course, different. The energy of the spiritual dimension is a very high vibration. It is not form; it is more like light. When a soul comes into a body, a strong pressure pushes it through time into a dimension of density. As spirit comes into form into the body of the child just before birth, it is compressed and becomes very dense. The child is being literally and figuratively squeezed. Therefore, there is a trauma in the sense of the psyche not in the sense of the body, but of the psyche. Due to the difference in the spiritual and material realities, amnesia occurs. The child begins to sense the body and can experience amnesia about its light, origin, and purpose.

When the child comes through the birth canal, it arrives into the mother's body very quickly on all levels. It has been there physically, but not on all levels of the psyche. When the mother is about 3 centimeters dilated, a rush of energy comes into the body. The child is held outside until that point as energy so that it doesn't have to give up being energy any earlier than necessary.

It's important to create light from inside the womb-space, through the canal, and into the world, so the child comes in on a shoot-the-chute of light. Then it will come through the canal and experience the movement as light. It will understand that this place has light. If they sense light in the world around them, they will not feel separate. Feeling separate creates disease, conflict, and deepens the state of amnesia. Just before birth, the mother fills herself with light. She opens herself by imagining a shower of light coming through the top of her head, through her body, and out through her birth canal.

At the moment of birth, if the child has not been brought forth with light, it begins to search for light. And the closest thing it can find is the soul of its mother. Whether or not the mother is aware of her soul, or has sent light to the child, or is living her soul's purpose, the child will find her soul in that moment of birth.

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When the child is placed on the mother's abdomen, it chooses to bond with the soul of the mother as the closest thing to light in that situation, In that moment of bonding, if the mother is not aware of her child as light, does not draw light through its body, and does not anchor it into form as light, instructing it about its awareness and its capability, the child will bond with the soul of the mother and with her belief system. An imprint is made where the child begins to experience the fear, judgment, and separation that are lived in the human condition. The most important thing that is bonded into the child, however, is the separation from light. This is why birth for many children is traumatic. This is why many times implements need to be used to assist in the birthing process. This is why the child does not come out easily and gently, flowing from the womb and the canal of the mother.

So there are reasons for difficulties in birthing, and they have to do with the separation the child feels from its divine nature. As a mother, helper, friend, and teacher, you can instruct and help each soul during the birthing process by stating in your own mind that the child is light, it is born into light, and will continue to live in light. When the child is born in light it will also have reverence for the body, the soul, and all types of life it will be in contact with as it grows.

Affirmation of Light: Honoring Your Child's Purpose and Truth

When the baby is placed on your abdomen, say clearly in your mind or out loud to the child, "You are light and light you shall remain. You are light and light you shall remain. You are light and light you shall remain." It is wise to say things three times because each word, sentence, and idea is planted firmly into the awareness and memory. Saying things three times becomes a kind of ritual where the child and mother bond through the words, ideas, concepts, and feelings that lie within them.

As the child experiences this connection and the beauty of these words, it relaxes into form. You will see the body become softer, yet stronger. The will and the pathway of knowledge will merge so there is a distinct connection between what the child wishes to accomplish and the strength and wisdom to do so.

It is advisable for you to say to your child every day for two years, "You are light and light you shall remain. You are light and light you shall remain. You are light and light you shall remain." After you have anchored light through the body, into the feet, and out through the body, say three times: "You have been born into the earth. You have been born into the earth. You have been born into the earth. And you remain as light, you remain as light, you remain as light."

Now place one hand on the heart of your child. Place your other hand on your heart and say the following affirmation:

"You are light and I honor you.
You have come to this place to live with me.
I know that you are from me and that I do not in any way own you.
You are free.
You are a child of light, a child of the universe. I know you have wisdom and truth within you, and I honor that wisdom and truth.
I give you permission to live your own truth.
I ask you to respect my truth, but I will not ask you to live my truth.
Your truth is yours, and my truth is mine.
Your ability to know is deep and profound,
and I respect and honor it.
I will guide you, but I will not expect you to live my life or my ways.
I will always encourage and support your creativity and the fulfillment of your potential.
In every way I will be open to the experiences we have, always loving you from my soul,
always understanding that our love will continue for all time.
There is nothing you have to do to win my love.
There is no condition or situation upon which I will remove my love from you. I will love you forever,
and that is promised to you in this moment."

Then you speak these words to the child, you give it permission to live from the Seed of Light within. You bring forth its arrangement of light and form and call the child's potential into being.

Pledge to the child with your heart that you will always honor its wisdom. Tell it that it does not have to buy in to what you believe. You will discuss things that happen and be together in working things out. The child needs to know that you will not make it give up its wisdom for yours, that it will not have to give up its truth for yours. Ask the child to honor your truth, also. Let it know that in your family system, love is unconditional. You will always love the child, no matter what it does. Of course this doesn't give the child permission to do just anything, but you are letting it know that you will never withdraw your love.

This is one of the key things that means the most to your child—that it doesn't have to give itself up to love you, it doesn't have to give itself up to be successful in the world or to be loved. Yet that's what the world sometimes asks. If you look at people thirty, forty, fifty years old, you can tell the ones who gave up their truth. They are dying. They have no life, no vibrancy.

It is also advisable to bond your light with the light of those you love and cherish and have immediate connection with. In this way you will foster growth, understanding, and connection with all your souls and all your purposes for being together. Each of you has learned and taught together before this life, and you will learn and teach together again. As you unite, you will find that the bonds become stronger and the understandings greater. Then harmony and union will exist in the nuclear family. Your child trusts you, and this trust is maintained in a safe and beautiful environment. When the child learns harmony at home and carries it into life outside the home, the world becomes a stronger and more peaceful place. It is very important for the child to know that earth is a safe place to be.

Let the child know that you are aware that it is here to fulfill a purpose, that it has a special reason for being here. As its life grows and opens, the family will discover what that is. We will support that purpose one hundred percent, and we work together always. We will always be in love. We will have anger sometimes, we will have fear sometimes, we will get tired sometimes, we will feel like giving up sometimes, but we will always be together, and we will always have this love.

If you give children these experiences very early in life, they will be less likely to buy into the beliefs of your great-great-great-great-grandmother, which really is, energetically, what you give them when they lie on your tummy that first time and bond to you. You give them society in an energetic vibrational component as soon as they are born. Because they're still connected to you, they energetically bond with everything you represent from all time. They know your karma, they know what you do when the bathroom door is closed. They know it! They know everything about you!

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It is also advisable to dream, to meditate or pray with your child. In doing these things, you will continue the connection that you had before birth, bonding your light and the light of your child.

"Grounding" the Child Into Its Body

As soon as the child is bathed and cleaned, it is important for the mother to hold its feet and draw light in the top of its head, like a shower, just as you drew it through your head, body, and birth canal. This time draw the light from the top of the child's head all the way through the body, into the feet, and out of the bottoms of the feet. This will assure that the baby is grounded into its body. This will diminish conditions such as colic, disconnection, and a feeling of not belonging.

Many of the conditions that babies exhibit stem from the fact that they are not fully in their bodies. Either they are afraid to fully become form, or they are still not grounded or connected into the body. And this creates separation.

The First 48 Hours

The first 48 hours after birth are very important. As soon as possible after the child is born, acknowledge its spirit.

1. Speak directly in the child's ear (it doesn't matter which one) and say quietly, "I acknowledge your divinity and your spirit. You have arrived on the planet earth. There are many rules here, but the most important rule in our family is that we are divine, that we are loved completely at all times by each other, for each other, and through each other. You are always creative and can accomplish anything you desire. There are no conditions on my love for you, absolutely no conditions on my love for you." From that moment remember that this child is divine.

2. Next, visualize putting light in the top of the child's head. The easiest thing is to imagine that you are on "Star Trek" and are saying, "Beam me up, Scottie." Imagine that your child becomes this oscillating frequency of light. If you don't see it, that's okay. Just put that light energy on top of what you see as your child. Pretty soon you'll start seeing the light, which is very beautiful. If something in the body isn't working properly, you'll see something else instead of light, and you can start putting light in that place, too.

Anchor the light through the top of the head like a shower so it's bubbling. You want to see light. It can be effervescent, like sunlight or white light, whatever works for your imagination. Bring it through. Anchor the light and talk to the child about being divine at the same time.

Put it right in the top, which is the crown chakra. The crown chakra is still open, and the light is needed. Send the light all the way down through the body of the child. Do this every day for two years. You can do it after that, but after two years you can teach the child to do bring light down through its own body.

The first time you do this, it is very profound for the child. So make sure that you are in tune with the child as you do this. Be very, very clear about what you're doing with the energy, because it makes a difference. Put the light in the top of the child and bring it all the way down into the feet.

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3. Then hold the bottoms of the feet and say, "You have chosen to come into form. You have chosen to come into form. You have chosen to come into form. I anchor you to the Mother Earth." Put your hands on the bottoms of the child's little feet. "I anchor you into the Mother Earth. You have chosen this form."

Then say three times, "You are light and light you shall remain." When you say this to the child, it will experience the circle of life. Children need this affirmation of spirit for two years.

4. Then take your hand and put it on the child's heart. It doesn't matter which hand; the intention is what's important. Put your hand on its heart and say, "The link that we have is through love. What I teach you I do from love. What is not compatible with your truth, I give you permission to release. What is not compatible with your truth, I give you permission to release." Say this three times, also.

If you run the light through the body and ground the child to the earth every day for two years, the child is less likely to have neuroses, psychoses, or dysfunctional patterns. Hold the child and give it love.

During the first 48 hours after birth, be sure that you are very clear when you hold the child. You are more open after you give birth than at any other time. This is a time for you to remember you are light. Bring light through your body and focus on your energy. Stay as open as possible, as light. If someone is distracting you or wanting something that will keep you from feeling clear and in balance, say, "Perhaps next week we can talk about it. Right now my focus is on being clear and centered, and in my truth as much as I can be."

For the first 48 hours, before you hold the child, even if it is rooming in with you, cleanse yourself by again running energy through the top of your head all the way down to your feet. This will clear your energy. Then when you hold the child, say, "I come to you in spirit."

Soul-To-Soul Bonding

Soon after the child is born, bond with your child's soul just as you did before birth. Lie with your child next to you or hold it facing you.

Focus on your own soul space in the xiphoid process of your chest. Imagine light coming out from that space in an arc and connect with your child. Bring the light up underneath the rib cage of the child, where its soul is. Then bring the light back into you. If you could see it, you would be making a figure 8. (Actually, you can do this soul bonding at any time with anyone you wish to make a bond with.)

Do this every time you hold the infant. Then let go and let the child take you. It is still having dimensional reaction and response. It is floating and being. You will see that there is no constriction[a withdrawing]in its eyes. When you look at your child's eyes, if there is constriction, do something about it from a very early age. If the eyes are constricted, the child is shutting down its spirit. Encourage it to stay open. Allow the child to take you into the dimensions. Bringing the light in the top of the head at the time of birth is very important because it helps the child start reversing amnesia right away. The spirit begins working with the baby, and you are able to travel with it and make that connection.

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Attend to the Child's Psyche and Spirit

The mother's primary objective when the child is born is attending to the psyche. That is why it is good to have communication before birth, because then the channels are open, and you develop a strong connection to the child. At the moment of birth and for 48 hours afterward, the child needs a loving environment of spiritual consciousness.

At birth there the child experiences a kind of amnesia so the soul can come into the density of the body and orient with the form of the body. A loving orientation will help the child bridge the gap between the space of the soul and the space of the body. If the environment immediately after birth is one of spiritual awareness, then the amnesia can recede, and the child can remember its true connection. It will know that there is no separation. Psychically, it will be whole.

It is wonderful for the child, therefore, if the parents and family can design a program so that for the first 48 hours the child experiences total spiritual awareness in a physical space. Then the amnesia recedes and the child begins to remember its true connection and calling, realizing that there is no separation. The separation that causes dis-ease and disorientation and other problems in the physical realm is a separation from spiritual essence. As weeks and months go by, there is a gradual integration where you begin to put the things of the world in, at the same time supporting the spiritual essence.

When the child is born, the only thing it wants is to be spirit. (That's why, when you do rebirthing experiences, regressions, and meditations, you're again coming into the physical body.) At those moments the experience feels like trauma because the child is searching for unity, and what it is getting is dis-unity. It's good to know that you don't have to do or say anything. The child's perception, or sonar, is complete when it is born. It's very much like the dolphins' energy when they are sonaring. The child can pick up the mother, the father, or whoever is around, automatically—quickly and clearly, in that moment the child is looking to bond with the origin space. It doesn't matter whether the child has a birth malady, physical problem, or a very low or high IQ according to earth standards. It doesn't matter. The child has total perception and total awareness at birth on that level.

The Infant Imprints the Reality of the Mother

In the moment of birth, in the blink of an eye, the child takes upon itself the reality of the mother and her total awareness. That is because the child is looking for the closest thing it can find to spirit, and that is the soul of the mother. As the mother nurtures the child it doesn't distinguish between nurturing and the mother's fear and belief structure, the experience of her physical body, or the traumas housed in her body. Those traumas get encoded into the child at birth. They are not there before birth.

So when you are birthing your child, you want to align yourself with your highest spiritual essence and be as clear as possible. Design the moment so you are fearless! What you can give the child is openness, beauty, and the connection and unity it's seeking. What the child gives you is another connection—a connection with spirit if you choose it. You can begin to understand the child's awareness at the point of birth.

This is very important because that instantaneous, simultaneous exchange will create the relationship for the whole life. A pattern is held inside the body of the child. This is why adults spend time, energy, and money taking workshops to release their parents. The imprint of their reality is held inside. Don't worry that you can't move that energy and be free to change the patterns, because you can. We want you to have this information so that you can make changes if you choose to with your free will.

Remember that as you are giving the child milk, you are also giving it the substance of yourself. Give your substance at the same time you're giving it something to eat or drink. The infant cannot distinguish between levels, so it is getting everything you are in every moment, whether you do it consciously or not.

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Anchoring Light Into the Feet: Daily Practice for the First Two Years

Lie the child down in front of you and hold its feet. Imagine light coming through its body. Teach it to listen to its feet, showing the child that the feet are very important because they are the wisdom upon which they stand. The feet are the understanding, the connection with the earth, and the way to make sure that the energy field doesn't get clogged up. Teach them to pull energy right up from the bottoms of their feet, doing polarity.[?]

Opening the Feet: This exercise opens up your feet as well and helps you do work with the Earth.
1. Put your thumb at the top of the left foot, (see diagram) at the twelve o'clock point, which is the top of the foot chakra. Push in and release to open the foot chakra.
2. Go down to the bottom of the foot at six o'clock and do the same thing with your thumb. Push in and release.
3. Go on the left side of the foot to nine o'clock. Push and release.
4. On the right side of the foot, at three o'clock, do the same thing.
5. Then do the same thing with the right foot: 12 o'clock, 6 o'clock,
3 o'clock, 9 o'clock.

When you stay in your body, grounded in your energy field, you are osmotically [a process of absorption] open to the awareness of the universe. You will know more, experience more, and be more grounded. You will have more patience. You will have more capacity to endure.

As mothers, you are the epitome or the expression of the Mother Earth in form. The one thing the Mother Earth does is endure. So your child will expect you to endure. When you don't, it will become afraid and act out. So by grounding yourself and grounding the child, you stay much more conscious, much more open, and much more connected to the framework of your own wisdom.

Meditate With Your Child Ten Minutes a Day

We recommend that you meditate with your child for a minimum of 10 minutes a day for the first two years at least. For the first two years, it's designed so that children are more introverted than extroverted. The two's are when they become more extroverted, so 10 minutes a day would be very good for you as a minimum to meditate with the child. You can talk to the child about it, saying it is important to integrate spirit into the human experience. You will create a connection with the forces of light that are attending your child. If you meditate daily, you will get in touch with their guidance. They will give you information through sensations or pictures, which will help you see how you can help your child evolve for the highest good.

The Child's Living Space—The Circle of Life

The infant is used to being in a universal space that is very round. Even the womb and birth tunnel are, in a sense, a circle. When the child comes into form, however, it begins to experience that things are structured in squares or boxes. So it's a good idea to simulate the circle as much as you can in the child's space at home.

If you can, allow the child to see a rainbow, an oval, or a circle around its crib. This will bring the feeling of order, which is universal, and which is represented on earth by the circle, the cell, etc. Draw a circle all the way around the room in some way or make a partial circle like a rainbow or an arc. Make rainbow colors, the universe, anything you want. You just want the child to feel that it is living in a circle and not a square. Then it will feel itself more a part of the universe. You might put stickers or wallpaper on the wall in different colors. Do something visual so the child has the feeling of the arc, the feeling of the circle, and can actually see it. It would be beneficial if you could make the circle all the way around, but that is not mandatory.

Remember that children are exchanging values here. The major gift that they give you is the gift of "forgetting" themselves as spiritual essence and becoming human. They abide by your rules so they can have your love and approval and maintain the soul connection. They do that for you out of love. What you can do out of love for them is to say, "Let's make this as comfortable for you as possible." If they could sleep in a round crib, that would be good. Then they could sleep in the feeling of the womb, in the feeling that they're still in a circle. They can move and not feel contained.

It's good to give children 12 inches on every side for movement, even when they're very little and don't move much. They need to feel they can expand their energy and that nothing will impede that. Also put around them things of the universe—stars, the moon, and the angels. The more things are flying in the room, the more comfortable they will feel. Make sure that children can see at least one flying thing, then they will feel more at home.

Children also need space to create. They also need alone time to incorporate what is happening during the day, much as you do. The important thing is that children have a space of their own. Just as it's recommended to meditate in the same place everyday to build up the energy, the same thing is true with children. If you put them in a space that allows them to create, to be free to express, to experience, and to meditate (which they do 99% of the time in the beginning), then you are encouraging that process. There is not a particular time on that, like leaving children alone for x amount of time, or letting them cry. But children need some time alone. You can decide what you feel is appropriate. When this happens, children develop the sense that there is individuality, as well as bonding with others.

Parents often wonder if their child should sleep with them in the beginning. An infant has the tendency to take on the energy of the people-around it because it is like a sponge—everything goes in and out. As long as the child gets adequate love, holding, support, and nurturing, it is good for the child to have alone time and not always sleep very close to others. This is optimal because the child can develop the capacity to discern between its energy and someone else's.

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The Importance of Touch, Music, and Animals

If you anchor light through the child's feet every single day, the child will learn to stay in its body, even when it is afraid. It will stay close to itself and will not abandon itself. There is much talk today about abandoning the self, about not staying with your inner child. If you give your child a vehicle for expression, teach it through images to dance, laugh, play, sing, and run, then the child relies on its entirety, its complete body, its complete mind, emotion, and spirit, rather than hiding someplace in the psyche. The child will become very strong, very able to deal with life, including commitments and discipline—things that are more regimented.

And, of course, sound and vibration are important. It's helpful to play music that is very soft, melodious, or lullaby-like so the child can hear the vibrations. Then it will be reminded of order, union, and sound that carries the intention of peace. That's important, particularly if you are raising the child in a city where the child might hear noises and other intrusive sounds.

Another important thing every day is to give the child the experience of touching something living. This is why people give stuffed animals. They give semblances of live fur to the children to touch, but what is best is to give the child something real to touch, every day. This is important because the child equates the real thing to the union of life, the soul, and the memory of oneness— Yes, there is life here. I am touching life. I am connected to life.

Plants are a good way of connecting, but they are secondary to animals. If you do not have your own animal, find one in the vicinity and make periodic trips to see it. The child can touch the fur with its hand and learn how to communicate with other forms of life, which is very important.

Educate the Child's Senses

We recommend that you don't tell your child about something that you're not prepared to show it in reality. For example, if you can't take your child to a mountain, don't show it pictures of mountains at a very early age. When you do that, the senses begin to understand life according to pictures rather than the reality.

Let's say that you are reading a story. You show a picture and say, "This is a mountain. This is a river." The child needs to experience the actual consciousness of the mountain and river. So as much as possible, take the child to these places. Show it the reality. In the beginning it is important to anchor into the consciousness real experiences rather than paper experiences. When you do this, you'll find that the child respects and honors the life within the mountains, rivers, oceans, streams, sky, or clouds.

When you teach the ABC's, language, or correlations with form, let the child touch the things. Let's say you are teaching the ABC's. You say, "A is for apple." Then you show the child a real apple. "This is what apple is." Make sure sensations are conveyed through the child's skin, through touch. As you give the child permission to explore the world and the universe, it will feel more free and capable.

When the child is drawing or painting, don't give it the message that it should draw a tree like everybody else's. Allow the child to create in its own way so that every stage of development is the child's. And let yourself learn as much about something as the child does. Allow the child to express its individuality. Realize that the child's "design " is guiding it to express in ways that will be most beneficial in the long run.

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Get Children Out of the Boxes and Into Nature

It is very, very difficult for children to be in a box and to live in a box, so make sure they get out of the box as often as possible. This is not to say that shortly after birth you take the child out into the city and expose it to pollution. But as soon as you can, get the child outside into negative ions, water, sky, and trees. Make sure the child experiences the natural elements in some form—earth, air, fire, and water—every day. Put the child near fire, perhaps to look at a candle. (Make this very safe, of course.) Let it touch the earth, climb on a rock, or splash water. Give the child something it can touch and hold. Teach it the directions—north, south, east, and west—from the very beginning. Show the child how to honor the earth. Say a ritual with the child, even if you don't think he or she understands it.

Never be fooled by the fact that your child may not be able to touch something yet, or may be too young to initiate an action that seems to make a connection. If the child is alive, well, and breathing, wherever it is, it's making a connection. That's the way the child is, that's the way the life force works. Don't limit your thinking about what the child knows. Erase limited thinking from your mind. Say instead, "I know the child knows this." This is true of everything! When you start to think that the child is not ready for something, erase that thought and say, "I know the child knows this." Get used to saying that. For example, it's a full moon, and you want to stand outside under the moon. Take the child with you. Imagine that the child has ten to fifty times the awareness that you have at any given moment. And you'll be pretty accurate, depending on how old the child is and what kind of training it's had.

You want children to touch the earth every day because the big job for them is getting in the body and staying in the body. Teach them from a very young age that staying in the body is a good thing. Staying in the body is what they choose. The more they allow themselves to be in the body, the happier they will be. Make their feet touch the earth everyday.

You want children to feel the life force. When you allow them to touch the earth, the moon and the stars, go outside and be in the negative ions of the streams, rivers, and oceans, touch sand, and play with animals, you're really saying, "Touch the force of life which is a part of this planet so that you want to be here, so that you want to connect." There are enough things to worry about without questioning whether you belong to the earth or not. Help the children feel that they belong here from a very early age.

Ground Every Day

It's important to ground yourself and your child every day. If you're in your feet and feel one with Mother Earth and draw from her energy, you're universally connected. You'll have much more effective communication with your child, with all children and all beings, and with all parts of the kingdoms.

Your child is an extension of the universe that has been given to you to care for to further the design of humankind and spirit as it works through humankind. This is a gift. Honor that gift, feel at one with that gift, and you will remember your own divinity and experience the connection with all things.

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Let Children Speak From Their Vibration of Truth

Children want to speak to you from their vibration. When children feel honored, their vibration becomes aligned with their integrity and their truth. Remember that the child will do whatever it needs to do to get love. If the child can't stay connected with universal love, it transfers that need to you. So if you honor the children and their truth, then they will honor themselves.

Support Your Child's Creativity

At a very early age, tell your children that you wish them to be as creative as possible, and you will support that. Guide them to draw, create, and express every single day, as soon as they are the age where that seems appropriate. Ask them to explain their pictures to you through pictures in their mind if they can't use language to express it. Have them draw what they see, not something you think is appropriate. A child might draw a ball of energy for a tree because that's what the tree looks like energetically, a ball of light. You want to encourage that. You might ask questions such as, "What color of light did you see? Was your crayon the same color that you saw? Is this really what you saw, or are you making it look more physical?"

Communicate With Your Child

It's important to teach words in the beginning through vibration and movement, such as dancing and singing. That way the child learns how to use the vehicle of its own energy. When it is moving, the child feels freer. You are giving the child the picture that you want it to be very, very creative. Give it the picture of what it's like to be able to speak, sing, write, dance, and draw. One of the ways it's easiest to create in the world is through expression, so express together. Do physical things together.

It's imperative that you deal with the child as a consciousness. Don't only make faces to it and make it laugh. Communicate realistically with the child about who you are, why you're here, what your experience has been, what you're choosing to create together, where you want to go with your life, what you want to do with your life, what you're afraid of, what makes you happy, what creates joy within you, what your longings are, what your aspirations are, where are you going, and how are you going there.

Where do you want the child to go? Where will you allow the child to go even if it's not what you want? In other words, show it parameters. Say, "If you want to do this, I find that easy. If you want to do that, I find it difficult." Allow the child to understand who you are, but not so much from fear or belief systems that have been given to you from other people. Talk to your child about your soul. Talk of your dreams and aspirations.

Let the child begin to recognize that you are connected, that you are unified, that there is love, that a great deal of common interest and union can be expressed and experienced. Talk about your relationships with the people in your life. What's difficult for you? What makes you sad? Talk about those sad things. Talk about everything you can. You can use language or not, it doesn't matter. You can communicate through mental pictures.

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What you are doing at this point is preparing the child for life. It's similar to what you might do if the child were going on a vacation later. You would say, "This is where you're going, and this is what you're going to do." If you couldn't go with the child, you would give it as much advance preparation as possible.

You need to do this so the child can understand the way things are. Talk about models and rules; talk about law and order. Give the child an understanding of the dynamics between men and women. Talk about what power, is, all these things. If you do, the child will be well-adjusted before it goes to school, even before it begins to speak.

Babies See, Listen, and Understand in Pictures

The language of communication for the first two years is basically that of images. When you communicate with the young child, always think in pictures because the child thinks in pictures. Before it has language, everything is an image or vision. Everything the child learns in language it is translating from images into words.

Verbal communication is not that important between the mother and child. After you've birthed the child, it is lying on your belly, and the cord is cut, the child bonds to you. You become the spiritual communicator of the child in form. So you have the most important role because the child gets from you the whole correlation with nurturing, with sustenance, and with the process of the planet. You are the link to the earth herself, the link to spirit, god, the monad, the creative source, to interconnectedness, or whatever you believe. If you give the child pictures, it will feel safe and connected. It will feel as if it has extended its awareness from a very wonderful universal point into a very wonderful earth point, and it will not feel separation.

As you communicate, always give the child the complete picture, as though it were a movie. For example, if you are going somewhere together and you need to strap the child in the car seat, or if there is will be movement, loud sounds, a different environment, different air temperature, etc., convey this to the child through mental pictures as you prepare to go.

In the first two years, before the child has language, it can pick up all the pathways of understanding on the planet. A child is very wise, particularly before it speaks, because it observes. It's aware. It has nothing else to do except exist. It can go back and forth between the dimension of spirit and the dimension of form very easily.

During this time you can give the child pictures of people's responses and reactions, of what is expected in the world, of how one can respect the self and others at the same time. You can give the child pictures of creating, drawing, expressing, dancing, and being joyful. You can give it pictures of ways it can utilize light and be spirit in form.

The most important thing is to talk with them about the structure of the world as it is. So if you want to communicate a concept, form the picture in your mind and project that picture to their consciousness. What they're experiencing makes sense to them from an energetic point of view. In their inner place they understand that you are speaking to them in the language of the universe. Right away they feel more esteem, more like themselves. They feel more complete and more connected to you. One of the most important things they are seeking is this connection with you. They are also able to experience reality in a way that makes sense to them.

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If you teach them that a tree has an energy field and so do flowers, they know that already, but they will trust you a lot more if they know that you know it, too! They are looking to you for guidance and they want to protect you sometimes. They want to love you and be approved of. And they want to have the unity that they come from to be experienced in form. If they know you really know what's going on, if they know you know the truth, they will feel much safer. They will cry less. They will be more absorbed in their own process rather than trying to get attention or manipulate the energy fields around them.

If you speak to them about laws and rules and perceptions and judgments of mankind with words, they learn fear. If you speak to them in pictures, they understand the nuances. They understand what is happening, why it's happening, and how it can come into resolution. Because you can, in every moment, give them the picture of that resolution.

It takes practice for adults to begin to think and communicate effectively in pictures, but the communication you're looking for with your children is in pictures. If you access something, clear your mind, and make a picture of it, they will speak back to you with a picture. If, from the very beginning, you give them a picture of their reality here, they will experience a consciousness that is able to relate to this reality much more quickly, specifically, and easily. They can begin to see the world as part of the universe rather than believing they have arrived on an alien planet.

This is very much what it feels like when the child comes through the tunnel into the birth canal and there is the vibrational constriction, which causes amnesia. Working with the child for that first two-year period is clearly very important. Depending on your perspective, process, and orientation with your child, its amnesia will lessen or deepen.

How to Project Pictures to Children

One way of projecting the picture is to form it in your mind. Make an intention that you will project it to the child. It is good to begin by holding a picture (if you have the courage) of yourself and saying, "This is who I am. I have these strengths. I have these longings. I have these feelings. I have these places of fear inside me. And I give myself to you completely so you know where you are in the reality of the universe."

Think for one second about what the child feels in terms of the reality of the universe. It's a very precarious point for a baby. It understands everything and no thing at the same time. So allow your child to experience you completely with no holds barred. "This is what I do well. This is the glitch point for me. At five o'clock in the afternoon, if I don't lie down, I'll seem angry at you when I'm really angry at myself because I'm not able to sustain the energy for as long as I wish I could." Give them your totality. It will not frighten them; it will encourage them. You can use words, but the picture is what you give them.

If they're newborn, you don't need words because they need to hear sound, not form. Words are form in sound. So if you want to talk to them, sing. Make tones, vibrate. That's what they like. The words make them try to figure it out, and all they get is the picture anyway. If you're thinking about a picture, describe the experience rather than talk about it. "I went on a picnic." Period. "I went to a grove where there was moss, and I laid my head on the moss. I heard the birds sing." Describe to the child what you experienced. (Describing things is also very good to do with your husbands or significant others, parents, and other children.)

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Think about what you want to say. If it's a difficult situation, don't use words. Give them the picture. Experience with them the energy of what you want to create. Think about what you would like them to do. If you want them to throw something, show them a picture. Show them a picture of what you don't want them to throw. Show them a picture of how harmony can be maintained in the energy field of all people in a particular situation. Show them a picture of how you'd like them to express energy, anger, fear, or any other emotion. In your mind's eye show them how they could perceive the reality, generate the energy they need to generate, go through all the moods, all the processes, all the experiences of being human, and at the same time stay balanced. Show them how they can express what's inside them easily and quickly-—just as a tree, the wind, sky, clouds, flowers, or grass would do.

Show them color, form, and energy without making them into a solid mass that they believe can't be moved. A child's perception becomes limited because it's taught limitation. It's not only the beliefs and the systems of thinking, but also that people believe things are really form, so they don't give the child the impression of itself as an energy field.

Children pick up pictures from what you're saying with words, anyway. Adults often tell them only what they think the child should hear, or what's appropriate, and that varies from adult to adult. It seems as if the general process is to filter part of what's spoken about. But the child is getting it anyway. So if you make a clear, full, open framework of communication, the child will get it.

If you're angry at someone, it's all right to let the child know that you're growing at that moment. It's all right to let it know that you're experiencing something, and it's okay for that energy to be experienced and expressed. Otherwise, the message the child gets is that it's not all right.

Male children in particular have grown up with a whole scenario of appropriate and inappropriate emotional experiences. Conflict and dichotomy are imposed on them at an early age, within six months. Within two years, these children often feel that their potential is being moved away. They feel as though they are being put into a restricted framework.

If you let the pictures flow, you'll enhance communication. You'll receive communication from a child who cannot yet speak. You'll know exactly what to do for the child, what to feed it, what's happening energetically, where you need to put your hand on its body, when you need to anchor the light through it, and when the child needs to be outside. You can be flexible and meet your child's needs because you have clear communication between you. You can acknowledge through pictures that you got the child's message.

You can also give a picture of what is on the agenda for the day. When the child sees this, it will be more flexible. The will, energy, and commitment of the child to honor its own truth will merge with your commitment to honor yours. You will respect each other's boundaries and create understanding between you.

If there is an intention to co-create the reality of the child, the respect index goes up about 150%. You feel as if you're in community with the child rather than needing to structure its whole experience. When you're in community with the child, it's like having a friend who helps you do things. You can lie outside together on the lawn in the sunshine. You can sit in the bathtub and play with the water. You can do something fun, something that will give you both a wonderful release and return you to nature, or foster a state of balance and relaxation.

It doesn't have to be a battle of wills. That's energetically set up when the child and the unfolding of its soul are not respected. This doesn't mean that you aren't doing a good job of mothering, or parenting, or loving the child. It's just that if children believe it's all got to be your way, that there is a regimen that they have to follow instead of being spiritually open and experiencing light all the time (things take away from light, rather than structuring something with light so there's light in everything), they get to the point where they feel they have to go against themselves to do what you want them to. So present it differently. Show them the pictures. Suggest to them the unity in actions, activities, tasks, or whatever needs to be done.

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Establish a relationship where you can tell the child what you are going to do, where you are going, how long you are going to be there, what is expected of them, and how they can do all this in harmony and peace. If animals, children, or other people are in the home environment, the images you give the child during the first 24 hours will help it adjust to what it will find in the world after it goes home. If the child is born in the home, still give it images so it will feel more at home in its physical space.

If you expect something from a child, let it know. For example, a behavior might be recommended. Let the child know that it would be respectful to people in a situation if it is quiet as it plays. It can listen and learn. It is very useful to instruct the child beforehand so it can prepare, just as you prepare, to instill a sense of consideration and respect. The child does not need a lot of time to prepare; it just needs understanding. Then when it goes into each situation, it can be with the experience as it happens. It can replay the picture you gave it and be connected to the situation as it happens. The child knows what's happening, just as you prepared it for birth by putting light through the canal and giving it an understanding of what would happen during the birthing process.

Teach the Child About the World

It is very important to communicate with your child about the nature of the world in which you live. It is imperative that the child understand that it is living in a place where fear, judgment and limitation are expected, where there is the understanding that birth and death are separate, that beginning and ending are separate, that there are dichotomies, dualities, and polarities, that questions and answers are separate, and that problems and solutions are separate.

Let the child know that the world does not see itself as a circle, that people do not understand that they are circles. Do this so the child doesn't get confused about what it knows to be true—it is living in a circle, there is no death, it has come here to live, and it will return to spirit and come back again into form.

The child needs to be prepared for the beliefs, ideologies, and fundamental life style of the planet Earth. This includes beliefs that there is not enough and that there is not connection with the union of all things.

The child will be prepared for this, even though it has come to change that condition and to create unity on the planet. It must understand and become sensitive to the different ways in which people respond and react. It's very important to teach the child to respect all truths, all ways, all paths, all colors, and all creeds. Teach it that everyone is the same in the sense of soul, and everyone is returning to spirit. Let them know that some people understand this and some people don't.

Teach the child of all the traditions and ways of being, and it will live them with you. You may or may not understand that the child is aware of what's happening. Just because it does not have language doesn't mean that it doesn't get the pathways. In fact, all the traditions and experiences it has within the first six months establish its conception of reality.

There will be times when you'll take the child into unfamiliar territory. When the child is crawling or walking, and you are going someplace where you will interact with people, give some instruction. If you are going somewhere that the child has never been before, give it background information.

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You might say, "We're going to Aunt Tilly's, and she has lots of things sitting on her tables. If you touch them she is going to be very upset, so you must respect these things. While we are preparing to visit Aunt Tilly, let's think about what you can bring and play with while we are in her home." Give the child a picture of Aunt Tilly and show it what is important to her.

Before you go, the child will understand what the boundaries are. Make the child responsible for what it would like to do and how it will behave appropriately in that situation. Do this in as many ways as possible throughout the child's learning so that it learns to be responsible for itself.

Communicate to the child about boundaries and parameters and be consistent. For instance, if you are going to a restaurant and will be sitting for a length of time, explain to the child in your mind, again with pictures, what is expected. Say, "We will eat this part of the meal, and then if you feel like you need to make noise, move, cry, or do something else, I will take you someplace where you can do that."

You may find that until the child is able to maintain a certain framework of consciousness for an extended period of time, for example in church or at dinner time, you may have to give it breaks. Let the child sit for 15 minutes, then take it some place where it can do something different. Don't expect the child to learn and not give it the opportunity to do so. The more you communicate with your child, the easier it will be to raise it because there won't be a conflict of wills.

There should not be a difference between the instructions and the experience; however, if a situation happens differently than you thought, when you begin to perceive the change, take the child aside and instruct it again, telling it that there has been a change and what that is. If you put a child into a situation where you have created an assumption, then you change the rules without letting it know, the child will become distraught. This often creates tantrums or crying.

This may seem to take time, energy, and commitment, and it does. But you will find that you get in the habit when you are traveling, holding the child, feeding it, playing over the events that will happen in the next few hours. You and your child will come to understand each other. You will be able to work with your moods, needs, and desires. There will be less hassle and misunderstanding, and more smoothness between you.

Systems Theory

Systems Theory is an important way of dealing with the processes of unfolding in all your relationships. According to Systems Theory, whatever is occurring is a healthy expression of what needs to change in the system to make it better. There are no scapegoats. There's no bad person in the system. Whoever is acting out or challenging the system is a catalyst for change. This person has chosen to express and catalyze the next movement of growth.

The earth is a place of learning, but it doesn't have to be a place of pain. Teach your children that they have to learn lessons, but they don't have to learn them through pain. Show them how to open their heart when someone says something unkind to them. Let them know that the person is afraid. Teach them that they don't have to take that on. Show them energetically. It's hard to talk to them about a person or a process. Let's say Mr. Jennings down the street sits on his porch and yells at you and your child as you walk past his house each afternoon. And his dog barks and growls at you. Just have a picture and show the child to wave when you go by, just wave and say hello, and not let in the energy of fear. If you show them how to deal with a situation, it's so much easier! You don't get caught up trying to translate things. You simply teach in the way of the heart.

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If you need to reprimand, to experience having control of the system concerning the child's behavior, you don't ever have to hit the child. Energetically speaking, if you understand the dynamics, you can send the message to the child telepathically or visually, and you never have to touch the child because it will understand.

If you are having fights, are unhappy, distraught, or uncomfortable, the child reflects and processes that. The child needs approval and connection because it is linked with spirit. That's why the mother connection is so important. She is the primary link to spirit for the child, and always will be. So if she ever wants to change a pattern with the child, she is the best one to do it because she has created the connection with the child and is sustaining that relationship. The child has agreed to learn from her, or it would not be her child. The mother has a unique position in society. How wonderful it is for each of you! It's very important for you to be aware of the contribution you make, both on a microcosmic and macrocosmic level.

You are nurturing your child when you think of the child, hold its feet, or feed it. You give the child spirit. Your child will get enough humanness, enough clothing, food and substance. Your link to the child is through spirit, and your spirit is very profound, and that's the gift you give the child.

If the child receives adequate spiritual education, reorientation, and experience during the first two years of life, it will be well grounded. The child will live in the world and create through the world, use the right and left brain simultaneously, play well, and stay in tune with nature and all things that are important. During the first two years, you support the child's spiritual connection, particularly. You want your child to have another input besides the linear, time, matter, and form. You want the child to have access to the right brain, its spirit, and the ability to create. You also want the child to understand that when it draws a picture, makes a statement, or does something in the world, it has authenticity and originality. Your child has a capacity to create differently than anybody else, and that's okay with you.

If you really loved someone and they were never vulnerable around you, how would you feel? If they never let you know when they were upset, how would you feel? If they kept that from you and did not share that part of themselves with you, how would you feel? That's how children feel. They need you to be real and deal honestly with your emotions.

They want you to have a temper tantrum if that's what you need. And you allow them to have tantrums if that's what they need, but they need to express it in a healthy way. Then it's not a power struggle. They might say, "I'm very angry." And you say, "Do you want to beat that pillow because you're very angry? Do you want to run because you're very angry? How do you want to express that anger?" Realize that if you don't express your own anger, the child won't feel safe expressing its anger because it feels safe doing only what you do.

So you may say, "You're going to get mad sometimes, and there are safe ways to get mad. We're going to learn what they are and do them," Sometimes you say to your child when he comes in the door, "Do you need to take 15 to 20 minutes and go meditate?" Sometimes he will need to run around the block, dance, scream, yell, or clear his chakras by getting down into his life force and making a sound. Teach your children to express. Teach them that it's appropriate to use the throat chakra, even though society tells people not to express, to keep feelings inside, and not talk about them. Teach children from a very early age how to effectively release the energy that gets caught in their system.

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It's very important to tell your child about linear law, which is how things are done in the world. Let it know what you believe and what the family can do in every situation to stay connected to truth and knowledge. Let's say you're going to a restaurant. Your child will need to play and run, to be free of the box. (They all want to be free of the box!) Tell the child the setup before you go, "We are going to be in a box today with people who believe you should sit in the chair and not say anything for two hours. We're going to a fancy restaurant."

Ask the child beforehand, like you're talking to a friend, "What do you think we can do?" Before the main course or dessert, or whatever, decide that you will go out for 10 minutes and play. Decide with the child what is going to work. Honor the child by allowing it to do what it has to. If the child gets squirmy, say, "We decided that you were going to go out and play right before we have dessert. Would you like to change that? Would you like to wait? We have to make a choice."

In some way support both frameworks. Remember the rule, even though you realize you need to do something different. Make sure the child gets what it needs, but also respect the framework. That way you are teaching the child to respect frameworks but not disavow its own truth.

One day you might say, "We're going to visit Aunt Myrtle today and she has things all over her house and she doesn't want you to touch them. We have to honor and respect her property." Don't set up power struggles with the child, because it's not necessary. Talk to the child beforehand. "If there's anything you want to take, get it right now." Even if the child cannot speak, it can go get what it wants. If you tell the child you will listen, it will communicate with you.

Then you might say, "We're going to take this toy, and you'll be free to play in an area in the house where I will set up a circle for you. You can play there. We'll be there about an hour, then we're going to get ice cream." Tell the child something to help it order the experience. Don't you have a sense of how you're creating each moment? Yet you may take the child with you and not tell it where it's going, what's going to happen, or what to expect. If you are afraid of the unknown, realize that the child is, too. Tell it as much as you know about what's going to happen. If that changes, let the child know. If you don't have time to talk, speak with your mind. Children are very much aware of everything that's going on. It helps them is to hear what you think is going to happen so they know what your expectations are. That helps them gauge what they're going to do. If you're in camaraderie, you'll go through it together. You won't go into a situation and get embarrassed because the child is behaving like you don't want it to. Respect, honor, and communicate with children.

Illusion and Reality

It is important to teach children the difference between illusion and reality. Teach them that what they learn in the world, if it's a normal situation, is an illusion. Hatred and death are illusions. Teach them this from a very early age. There's nothing to be afraid of because there is no death. The cycles of creation, beginning and ending, birth and death, are all the same. They are the same point. When someone dies they are leaving, but that doesn't mean death is real.

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Teach them that they don't have to buy into what they're going to learn out there. It's like watching television. They don't have to buy into a message of fear because the message is an illusion. You can say, "This is what humanity believes, and this is what fear creates. If we don't want to see what fear creates and would rather see what joy creates, let's change the channel and find something that is more real, something that will support who we are and what we believe in."

Let them know that what they see creates a vibration in their consciousness. If they are little, say, "If you watch that, you're going to feel like what you're watching. You'll feel afraid. Do you want to feel like that? You are very connected to what you see through your eyes. So if you see that, you're going to feel the same way." Make a choice every time you go to the movies. Read the reviews. Ask you children how they want to feel. "This movie is full of violence. Do you want to experience that?" Your children might say, "No. We want a funny one." If you teach your children that their choices make a difference in how they feel, they will make wiser decisions in what they watch. [What the see-read, hear... smell, feel, taste.]

Will and Understanding

There are two centers in the forehead: will and understanding, in this society, the will takes precedence over the understanding. You want children to feel balanced enough so they can understand the human process, that people are afraid, and that they criticize and judge when they are afraid. Understanding is also connected through the feet. Children can work from their third eye in the middle of the forehead, right down through the bottoms of their feet. They can be in their bodies, grounded in themselves and not be willful, full of will. They can be full of understanding, intention, and knowledge.

The sense of linear time is hard for young children to grasp. If you say, "We're going to do that tomorrow," it means nothing to them. If you want to teach them about time, teach them about the reference point words that indicate time, like yesterday, tomorrow, and later. Let them know about the words, but realize they don't get that. They don't understand, "We'll do that later. You can have ice cream tomorrow. You can have this later today. You're going to get fed when Mom gets off the phone." They don't understand because to them there's no time. So give them the sequence of events in images. Give them the picture of today and then the picture of what will happen at nighttime. "At nighttime we take a bath, sing a song, get in bed, and go to sleep." Give them the whole continuum of sleeping, waking, eating, and doing things during the day. Then they get the rhythm.

If it's not in rhythm with their own truth, they'll let you know. You may say, "Now wait, what's wrong with this rhythm? I'm going to show you the film of what we're going to do today. Tune into this program now, and watch what we're going to do. If you want to say words, that's fine." Then you can say, "If there's any part of this that doesn't feel good for you, let me know." Then clear your mind, like you're going to go into meditation, and the child will project to two places, usually the third eye and the heart simultaneously. If you've developed a system, and your child tells you something isn't going to work, nine times out ten, it's the intuition speaking, not the will.

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If you know the child never likes to stay someplace after four hours, but you have to leave it someplace for five hours, show it your picture. Say, "This has to be. We have to work this out. What do you need in that last hour?" By the time children go to school and get regimented a bit more, they will know their bodies and know what they need. You can tell their teacher, "My child needs to stand up every hour for five minutes."

Teach children to respect the framework of reality, but also teach adults to respect children. That has to happen very quickly for everything to change in the way that it would be recommended. Respect is very important.

The child will not provoke your anger from its own will if its will is in tune with the Truth. It wouldn't do that because it's not productive, and the child knows that. The child has learned behaviors—the way to get attention, to get something going, or to do certain things. A child knows how to manipulate energy to get what it wants. It knows how to take energy from the family system through anger or acting out and have energy directed towards him or her. So whenever a situation occurs, show the child what has happened, why it's unacceptable, and what the result is going to be. Show the child that if it continues, it will put everybody in a separate place. Everybody will feel angry at each other. There are other ways to get space, and other ways to get attention.

The fundamental reason that a child will provoke anger is because it doesn't know how to deal with its own anger. If a child understands how to be angry, it will happen spontaneously, then be gone. If the child understands how to get approval and work within a system (and you're all working within a system), and if a child understands the relationship of self to others, balance is created automatically.

You have patterns, and other people in the family have patterns. With all these patterns, unless you work with community issues, the patterns can create a bumper-car effect. There is one person's will, and someone else's will, and the more people in the situation, the more dynamics can be created.
Teach how everyone gets their space, how everyone joins together, what's appropriate, so that your system, however it functions (and you're going to have as many different functioning systems as you have people) is what's comfortable for the people.

You can also work with unconscious process and with what's happening on all levels. The child will get the message that there are acceptable ways to work with energy and ways that are not.

The easiest way is to talk about separation and intimacy as issues and ways of relating to what the system is creating. Sometimes people need to be alone. Sometimes they need to be together. Sometimes they need to be together but not touching. Sometimes they need to be touching. Sometimes they need to be in their head. Sometimes they need to experience communication through words. Sometimes they need to have fun together. Sometimes they need to do work.

If you give children understanding about what's happening, then you can ask, "What do you need? This is what you're creating. If you express it differently, there would be no feelings of anger and separation."

If the child throws finger-paints against the wall, show it a picture of how much time it will take you to clean the wall. Show that cleaning will take away from an enjoyable time together. Look at what they want to experience and help them see how they can experience that so it will fit in with what you're trying to create/Then you have rapport that exists on all levels.

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Show him the picture of your back after you carry him all day long, and that you need to lie down in the grass, and that the grass heals. Then he gets the feeling of, "Yes, this is the place where I can lie down and look at the universe and remember what it's like. And I don't have to feel separate. I don't have to be in the box anymore." In giving pictures, you find a tremendous change in their perception of what they're supposed to do, or how they're supposed to act. It doesn't mean that you don't show them boundaries, or give them the understanding that you're in charge and that you've been entrusted with their development. That's part of the picture you give them. You can speak words simultaneously with pictures. You can speak words when you're teaching them, but when they learn, they always have a picture about what's going on because that's the way the child learns, through images. If you do that from a very early age, the child can communicate to you exactly what it needs when it needs it. You can help children merge the will, the intention, and the practice of learning and experiencing so they feel comfortable with that process.

You also develop the intention for wholeness inside them. Show them what happens when they do a certain thing so they understand people's responses, they understand what's happening. They get the picture and feeling of what it's like to be in the situation and know they have a creative role in it. This means they have control, high self-esteem, and a high opinion of their own awareness, intuition, and intellect. They understand they're divine. When they know they're divine, the will doesn't have to lead the understanding.

Give the child the totality. You can say, "I just had a fight with myself, or with Daddy, or Uncle, or Granddaddy, and this is what happened. And this is what we can create from the situation.'" Give the resolution point. Always show them the resolution, which teaches them how to heal, how to resolve, and how to create harmony.

Give them the picture of the whole, the hologram, because they think in the hologram. If you teach them language and don't give them the hologram, they will become linear. You don't want them to become linear. You want to sustain their integrity.

Psychological Aspects of Spiritual Training

Most of the time children react to a stimulus around them. You may not think you have done anything to cause the child to feel insecure, angry, or upset, but usually something in the environment has done that. If you're grounding them in, working with their feet, telling them they're divine, working with their energy fields, and anchoring the light through them, they should be very much grounded into the body, and therefore, less reactive. If something is going on physically, you'll see a picture of it in your mind. If you're in communication with them through pictures, you'll know where they are. You'll know if you're giving them something they don't like to eat or if something you're eating comes out through your milk that they don't like, or whatever—they understand what's happening and give you an impression of it.

If you honor that, they will honor it, and they won't forget that their body speaks to them. They'll always know what's going on in their bodies because you give them permission to acknowledge their own truth and live it. When you work with them, they will acknowledge that they know a lot. They have infinite wisdom, and they're ready to express that wisdom in every moment, in every way.

In the process of unfolding its pattern, the child generally experiences a strong, consistent expansion every three months. Concentricity, the principle of expanding consciousness and awareness, is a way of expanding the growth process for your child. Think of the soul underneath the xiphoid process, the seat of the soul, with bigger and bigger circles going out in ever-widening expansions. Think about that as a natural, evolutionary process, and place your child in the center of that circle. Every three months there will be another ring around the experience and expression, which helps catalyze the next ring, and the next ring. In a sense, everything you do with the child on any level from birth onward is in concentricity.

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Today, perhaps the three-month-old has the ability to process everything in the room it's in. At six months, it's processing the rooms on both sides of the room it's in and spaces outside the house. If you think perceptually about awareness, the child is opening and expanding all the time. That says something about all of you, the big children also, because you have a total understanding of what's happening in the universe in your consciousness because of your years of evolution. So you can sense weather changes, you can sense uprisings when people are fighting against their own fear. You can experience these things energetically.

When you work with the child, make sure you understand where your child is in its perception. How much square footage of your house is the child taking in? The child will be aware of everything that happens by the age of three. It can be aware of what's happening within about a 25-mile radius. You can see how much the child is responding to in the immediate environment. If you're having a fight with someone three rooms away, and your child is six months old, eight months old, or a year old, it's going to understand what's happening and respond.

The Family System

If you're having a fight with someone, perhaps your spouse, friend, parents, or other children, you need to address that in picture form with your child so that it understands the resolution and growth involved. You may not have all the answers, you may not have all the pictures, but you can put information into the picture you give the child about what you want the outcome to be. Show it the harmony the family is creating through the systems theory of having a conflict or problem that brings growth and opportunity for expansion. Show the child that every part and dynamic of the family system is creating it.

All of you are in constant, unconscious connection with everyone in your environment, no matter how far away they are. If they're on the other side of the world, an energetic exchange is always going on. If you teach the child this, it can resolve things with someone by energetically shifting the patterning held in the body and looking at the person in a new way.
You're teaching the child conflict resolution, teaching it to experience itself as the creator of its own universe through pictures.

Parents and children can be honest about their feelings all the time. Whether they're good, bad. or indifferent, it doesn't matter. It's all right to have a feeling. Daddy comes home. He's angry because he's had a hard day at work. The child doesn't have to react to that. Everybody states where they are and what they need from moment to moment.

You each have to decide what's appropriate for you about anger, in terms of boundaries and time and space. Decide how comfortable you are with anger, how comfortable you are with the expression of feelings. You may have a different perception than somebody else in the family system, and that's fine, but the child needs to know that also. Be honest with the child when there are differences between the adults. Put two people from the same system in the room with you when you deal with differences or expectations with the child. Say, "I feel this way about anger and this is what I feel comfortable with about your anger." Then say to the other person, "Would you tell the child what you're comfortable with, so it understands that we have differences about that? Then when the child is with you, it can do this; and when the child is with me, it can do that. (Continued)