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If you don't have cross-purposes in your system (conscious ones), you'll have some unconscious ones that will get worked out if you do the system. If you have a strong bond and talk about things from a very young age when there's no ego involved, then the child will understand.

It's important that you don't talk about other people in your family system when they are not present. For example, "Daddy doesn't like you to play in the garage." The father needs to say that to the child directly, to have it clear.

When your children are about seven years old, hold family meetings every week so they can say anything they want with respect and no repercussions. Start an honest forum even before they can talk, so they will understand that there is a forum for speaking and experiencing the conscious growth in the system. You wouldn't work with someone on a day to day basis if you didn't once in a while get together and say, "How do you think it's going?"

Differences and Authority

Experiencing honesty in communication helps children feel connected to the system. If you have to restrain your child, do so lovingly but firmly. Sometimes you will have to hold them and say No. When you say No, you're bringing them in and saying that that the system says No. You might say, "I love you always, but your behavior is not appropriate." And the behavior is a gift because you ask yourself, Why would the child do that? What is happening in our system that's causing this behavior?

Every time the child acts out, ask, How are we growing? What are we learning here? How are we becoming more in harmony? Then the child doesn't become the problem, and the behavior doesn't become the problem. The child is a catalyst is to create a larger, more beautiful, more harmonious system.

Expressing Emotions

If you have a child who is very angry, he will want to watch war. He'll have toys or representations of human beings in miniature form and start to make war with them. If you see children making war with toys, ask yourself, What is the child trying to express? How could he more healthily express what he's feeling without making someone else his enemy?

It's very important for you to teach the child to express emotion freely. The easiest way is to do so yourself—to state when you are angry, what you are angry about, what you are afraid of, and what makes you happy, so the child will know from your voice and words what it already senses from your being. Your child will always know when you're angry and upset. Part of what happens during emotional outbursts in families is that the emotion underneath the outburst is not dealt with, expressed, or experienced. Then the child internalizes the anger or the feelings that are happening in the family system. Rather than experiencing the truth of the situation, the child may take it upon himself to be the cause of the anger, or take on the energy of the interaction.

Therefore, if possible, always express what is happening emotionally. It's not necessary to protect or shield the child, because it's strong. Its psyche is aware, and it has an incredible amount of knowledge. Teach the child how to express and feel all senses and emotions. Children will understand and relate with humanity much more clearly if their feelings are freely expressed. The thing that should be remembered is that when the child is afraid, when the child feels distinctly different, as though it doesn't belong, as if it is being judged, or feels separation, it will believe it's done something wrong. Or it may feel that it does not belong, that there is no connection here. And then there will be separation.

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Separation does not exist in the universe. It only exists in form. By that we mean separation from God, separation from self, separation from soul. It is a physical condition born of choices having to do with behavior, the need for approval, and judgment.

When you speak to the child, always speak with the child's body, calling forth its light, anchoring it into the body, connecting. Know that the child is responsive to you even though it does not understand language.

Speak to the child, always, as a mature and wise soul. As it is born, you might say, "I have fear. I was given fear, even though I was not born with it. I have it, and my people have it, and my mother had it. I know that I do not need to 'protect' you by instilling fear within you. I know you have only two fears: the fear of falling, and the fear of loud noise. Every other fear I will not teach you. You may find it in me or feel it in me, but you do not have to live your life in fear. We will learn together to walk in the world with peace and joy, and we will choose to be together in these ways."

As the child grows and learns, it is important to connect with the understanding within the child as much as possible and draw that forth so it is lived every day.

Dreams and Nightmares

You can take a nap together and talk about your dreams to the child. As the child starts to make a connection to words, you can ask it to speak about dreams. Listen to the child's dreams every day, like in The Kin of Ata are Waiting for You, by Dorothy Bryant. Remember that you have unconscious and spiritual levels and that even when your mind does not know certain facts, you actually do know them. You already have instinct, intuition, and your own wisdom about what is happening.

Have your children talk to you about their dreams, and tell them about yours. Then every 24 hours they have a reflective point where they can anchor their consciousness into form. You don't want to create space cadets. You want them to be very clearly aligned with the process of humanity and to be compassionate, open, wise, and free. You don't want them to be held in bondage by society, you want them to be able to create inside it.

Nightmares are usually experienced because the four bodies—spirit, emotion, mind, and body—are not in alignment. If the levels are oscillating at the same rate of speed, there is integrity and balance. If your child is upset on any level and goes to sleep, then there can be a distortion of these levels, and the upset takes on proportions and identities that have to do with resolution. There is always a resolution in a nightmare if one will see it through. The usual thing is to be afraid and abort it halfway through and not get the message. You might make sure that the child has the four bodies oscillating at the same rate of speed. You can simply ask for that to happen.

You can say to your child as it's going to sleep, "I ask that your levels be in balance and that they all vibrate in harmony together so that when you interface these levels as you sleep, they will be in vibrational resonance. They'll be together in harmony."

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You can also bring light into the child through the top of its head, through he body, and out the bottoms of the feet to assist in aligning the four bodies.

For adults, it's usually that one body is out of control, is more active than the other, and/or distorts the process for the psyche. To stay in balance, before you go to sleep at night, say the affirmation, "I ask that the cells of my physical body vibrate at the same rate of speed as my creative consciousness."

Children Older Than Two

Even if you did not bring the stream of light through your child's body before the child was two, that's okay. You can begin today. If they're over two years old, anchor the light for two weeks. If they are approaching the age of two, start where they are and just go with it. It's good to do the anchoring for a couple of weeks so they get used to it and understand it.

For example, if you have a toddler or if the child is busy running around and you don't have an opportunity to anchor the light and do ritual daily, design it so you intend them to receive information, connection, or experience, no matter what they are doing. Even if you can't go over to them and ground the energy through, you can always intend it. Even if they are in a situation where they aren't with you some of the time, you can still say to them, "Remember to ground, remember to talk to the kingdoms, remember to feel the essences."

You might wish to state to them, "I have just learned something that would be beneficial for you, so we're going to do it for a little while. I want to remind you that you are light. I want to remind you that I love you unconditionally. Say, "You are light. You are divine, and you've chosen to come into form. You're still light, and light you shall remain, forever. You'll always be light."

Tell the child, "The rules that apply in this house are that you are divine and that you understand your own process because you have your own truth. And I will support that for you, we will support that for you." You can teach a child to anchor light into its own body by pretending it has a little shower at the top of its head, and the shower sprinkles all through its body. Using light this way will balance their charkas and make their energy system connect. All their physical systems will work better together—circulatory, muscles, and nervous system.

Then they don't have to get hurt, have bruises or cuts, and can understand that they're really energy in a body. Let them know that their energy can just bond back together. They are naturally going to heal themselves, provided they are not stopped by the image that it's not possible. That's very important!

Give them the image that they have to be careful—full of care—about certain things, such as fire. Give them a picture and the feeling through the picture, of what it's going to look like and feel like when they are burned. Say, "That's what happens when you're form. You have an energy field, and the ability and capacity to heal yourself, but there are some things you don't have to do. You don't have to do that to prove you can do it!" You teach them through a very funny, enjoyable way of being, and therefore they are aware that they have choices. If you show them the pictures, then they'll say, "Well, I can choose to do that or not choose to do that." And they will develop esteem for their own bodies, inner knowledge, and wisdom.

As they get older, you have the opportunity to support creation because they are starting to draw, do movement, or play with clay. You can tell them that they are very creative, and you can support that creation. That becomes very important because the way they actualize their design is through their creativity. Always encourage them to create.

Every day they should have some medium that they can play with. Then talk about what they drew or expressed. Support that by asking them to discuss it with you.

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As they get older, make a particular time that is your time together. We recommend that as the children get older, there be a minimum of 10 to 20 minutes (20 is best) a day where you give the child time to talk with you or be with you about what is going on in its life. Listen to the child's dreams. Be with them right before they go to sleep, if possible.

With the older ones, go through the ritual for birth. Set aside a time, perhaps 2 hours, where you relive their birth with them. Go through it and say, "Do you remember when you came out of my body? The light was all around you." Paint this picture for them as if you could redo it with them. Talk to them. Make the vows. Hold their feet. Hold their hearts and do this every day.

Make sure when you are with them that you practice communication. Say, "I'm learning about this, what do you think? Show me how you are feeling about it, give me some feedback." Learn to gauge how your child is and what it's doing when it's communicating.

If your child is already older then a few months, then you can say, "I'm going to start meditating with you tomorrow and I want to know if that's okay. I'm going to start bonding with you and this is what I'm going to do. I would like to make this something we do everyday." Speak as you would to a friend, "Do you want to do this together?" Make the relationship something that is on both sides so you get feedback and give back and forth.

Remember, even those of you with older children, that you did the best you could with what you knew when your children were young. You contracted at that point that the connection between you and the child would be what it was for the learning that occurred.

You can go through the birth with your child no matter how old the child is. You can do it with a child that is 22 years old if you want. You can sit with your children and talk about their birth, where you were at that point in your awareness, what you thought about, what happened, and what was going on, and now what your impressions are, and what you wish had happened, and what was available or not available at that point, so the child understands.

"My mother didn't have a chance to be with me because that didn't use to be the rule." Then they understand. You can tell them, "They didn't have rooming in then. You had to go down the hall, turn left, then right, and you had to go into a room with other babies." It's very important that you have that discussion with each of your children, no matter what their age, so that if anything comes up or if anything is not resolved, you have opportunity to resolve it.

Adolescence

In puberty children need to have their chakras balanced every day. If they are an adolescent and won't give you permission to do that, then ask permission of the soul to do this in a visualization with them. Ground them as much as possible by having them do processes designed to help them stay in their body.

Rock and roll music is contrapuntal, which means it goes against the beat of the heart. It is actually going in a contrary vibration. Rock and roll confuses the system into believing that it's on track, and that's why it's like an addiction for them. So you don't forbid it, but you want to modify it as much as you can. At dinnertime, for example, you might play other music that is more harmonious. There are a lot of things you can do. Remember that they have free will and at this point in time they may not believe that what you're saying is true. So support the process subliminally as much as you can.

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Teachers and Education

When the time comes, if you can, get your children into a school with integrated, whole brain learning. If you cannot get them to a school that is educationally progressive, tell them about sitting and what they can do about it. Show them how to ground their energy when they sit in the chair. Tell them how to use their vision. Show them how to do bioenergetics. Explain why the curriculum is what it is and why the rules are what they are.

If you're uncomfortable sending a child to school where it has to sit in a chair for six hours, try to find an alternative. If you can't find a good alternative, explain the situation to the child. Give it options, no matter the type of school it's in. Always teach the child that it is a creator and that options are always available, no matter what is happening

The most important thing regarding education is finding a teacher for your child. Find people, teachers, who will honor the creativity of your child as much as possible. They should have open hearts, but most important, they should not teach your child something they're not ready to show your child. They need to give your child experiences. Multiple, daily experiences, holographically, so the child is continually stimulated. There isn't the feeling that learning is something that's done just with the head.

There is a process called integrative learning, which is very good. The most important thing is that children learn kinesthetically, sensually. [As in the Montessori method of learning.] They are feeling the reality, seeing the reality, and don't have to think about it to get an A+. They more or less merge with it, understand it, be with it, and express it on some level. That's the most important thing: that your child has freedom, that in every moment there is a way for your child to speak about what it needs and also respect the climate of what's happening.

That's why it's important for you to teach them rules and why the rule is in effect, because then they understand what's happening. Remember, the universe is ordered. And they come from a very ordered place. So the more order in the life expressively, the better they will feel.

Find an educational system that has order, but not rigidity. It should offer dynamic opportunities for the children to experience and express continually. And the school also needs to teach love. Teach love, not talk about it, teach it through their own fields of energy and in the way they deal with the children.

Never put your child anywhere until you've sat in the environment for at least as long as you expect your child to sit in the environment. Sit there and merge with your child's consciousness and say, What's this going to feel like for my child? It's much less important what system they're in than that they have these criteria met.

The other thing you want, if possible, is to have the school teach about the soul in a non-religious way. a non-metaphysical way. For example, the soul is the connection to all time, all space. and all reality. Give the child access to every single thing it needs from inside itself. You want an environment that's going to support that. You'll start creating new schools because it's going to be necessary.

If you want to create a home school, we would recommend that you make it a collective school. Have males and females come in periodically. They might be the parents of the children. A male might be the father or significant other of a child's mother, and teach something, so there is a connection. The child isn't learning something only from his or her parents, because that's not fair. Have people teach what they're good at, teach what they love to the children. Get people who are enthusiastic, who have a lot of interest in what they're doing. You teach the children because there is fun in sharing, not because if they don't learn it they're going to be dumb.

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It's important for children to experience the environment in a way that will stimulate them to get ideas of their own about what they want to do and what they want to experience. When they're growing up, for example, boys want to be a fireman, or something else that's dynamic. That's because those occupations give the most energy when you observe them. So you want to bring somebody who's doing something exciting into the learning situation. No matter what it is, no matter what they do, you want the child to feel that, so they start living the parts of themselves that are open to expressing and giving them a fuller sense of who they are. They don't have to choose something without being it first, without being in the energy of what is created through that system. So you vary that. Every day or so, have somebody else come in.

Always have a balance of males and females as teachers. That's probably the most important thing. Then the male/female parts of the child's psyche will merge. It's also good to have a balance in the student population as much as possible. But that pretty much takes care of itself, if you let it. The teacher is a little bit different. With a balance of males and females, there will be a strong balance between the male and female inside the child, which means they will feel connected and choose healthier relationships.

In deciding where your child goes to school, it's important for you to feel comfortable. Honor that. If you don't feel comfortable, it doesn't matter why. It never matters why. If you're uncomfortable, you're uncomfortable. And that may be because of a myriad of reasons. But you have to honor the uncomfortableness. In the end, you're going to give up your own time anyway, so you're only punishing yourself. If you're the one who's going to benefit from finding what will make you comfortable, then you have to honor that because that's real, so that's honored.

What you might wish to do is give yourself the space and gift of the perfect person to come to you so that you have everything that you want and you feel very comfortable. You do not need to have guilt. You give yourself that gift. You ask for that, visualize it, affirm it, feel it inside, feel the person inside that you are calling to you, and she or he will come.

It's a holographic process. There's no separation on anything, not on curriculum or teachers. Invite males from the community to come and share their skills. Don't make it something like, "You do this and I will pay you for it." Ask, "What do you want to contribute to the children of tomorrow? To the children of today? To the cultures of tomorrow? To the Earth? We'd like to have you come in, perhaps three hours a week, perhaps three hours a month, it doesn't matter." Find people who have wonderful hobbies and experiences and don't know where to share them or live them fully. This is such a lovely process. Think about those things, and the school will grow and develop. Get people interested and involved. It's very hands-on and experiential, and that's of course the key to learning, anyway.

There are many energies, spirits, guides, angels, and lights that are willing and able to work with you. Ask for what you need. Be clearly in the moment with your child, as much as you can. Do not worry so much about tomorrow. Be in the moment. Invite the consciousness always. Meditate with your child every day. Listen to her/his dreams. Listen to the process of her/his reality and how she's growing. Ask your child about how he/she is learning, what he/she fears, what he/she loves, what he/she needs. Speak to your children always from your heart. Ground with them every day, fly with them every day, and your relationship with them will be very balanced.

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Fundamentals

Anchor light into the body of your child every day and help the child ground. Remind the child that it is light, is here to live its potential, and that you have faith and confidence in this. Work with the truth and help the child understand the purpose deep within its being. Allow it to create in every moment whatever it feels is necessary. Respect and honor the child, and at the same time have the child respect and honor you. Then life is easy. Raising the child is easy. The fundamental conception of union is established between you and the child, and it is happy with you.

The mother's job is very important in the first two years because she anchors the consciousness and pledges to the child that she will honor its commitment, its truth, and its calling. She creates the nurturance, sustenance, and substance around which the child will grow. That is her responsibility. Because she is the primary person, or one of the primary people in the life of the child, the more she communicates with honoring, the more she and the child experience union and connection.

For the father and for other people in the family, their responsibility is to give their soul's understanding, to give all information necessary to communicate what is important to them, where they are in their development, where they would like to be with the child, how they would like to relate, what is important for the child, and how the child will follow through with its understanding. The father can ask, "How can we communicate more effectively? How can there be union between us?"

This is what the father must communicate. There must be information so there is a strong connection between all dimensions. The father brings knowledge to the child, supports knowledge, brings it through, and consolidates it into form. So the father represents the Seed of Light and the wisdom housed in the Seed of Light. As they communicate, a very strong bond is established that will help the child live its potential more fully. The mother establishes the environment, and the father helps the child fashion or anchor a very practical, linear application, logic, and cognitive reasoning.

The interesting process that is happening now and will continue into the future is that the father and the mother come into union with themselves as an individual first, then they bond with each other. In that way, knowledge and creation come together to form substance. The child feels that it can create into form anything it wants, because it understands itself as a vehicle of creation in the universe. This is a very beautiful process.

The other important thing is that when your child begins to speak, listen. Don't correct the words or verbs or subjects. What you do is instruct, and there is a difference. Make sure that when you're speaking to the child there is always a feeling of teachership rather than the feeling that the child needs to do something for approval or understand something for a purpose outside the real a value of the understanding. It's important that this be a joint effort, that there is cooperation in order to feel good about the interaction.

It is also good to tell the child repeatedly that you love it very much. Do so at different times, not necessarily when the child has done something you approve of, or when the child has done something that you disapprove of. Blend the love, the cherishing, the acknowledging, and the experiencing all together so that a richness is woven into the fabric of the child's life.

Encourage the child every day to express. As it grows, it is important to listen every day to what the child has experienced, what the child is afraid of, and what the child has learned that it would like to appreciate or experience again.

Listen to your child's dreams every twenty-four hours. Speak of what has happened in the living and what has happened in the dreaming.

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Always ask the child what it is experiencing, what it wants to do, and where it wants to go, so that you learn about your child. Listen ten minutes a day minimum, as the child grows past the year of two, when it is going to school, and coming and going. Ten minutes a day is the time you can spend forging the bond, maintaining the connection, and calling forth the Seed of Light, influencing and supporting your child to live its potential.

Always know that you are connected to light yourself, and through your child you will experience and express that light in form.

Thought follows energy, and energy follows thought. If your child stubs its big toe, and you put all your attention on the big toe, it's going to hurt more. It's actually going to hurt them more if they pay attention to it than if they don't. And if you pay attention to it, it's going to hurt even more. So don't pay attention to the part that's hurt unless it needs some kind of healing. Then heal it. Use your hands. Use your heart. Tell them about it. You can take the energy out of it. You can tell them, "You have hurt your toe, and it's pulsing, so we're going to take the energy out of it, and the best way to do it is this way. Let's look over there in that direction over there and think about something else."

Then you might say, "Now, what did you learn? Do you need to do that again? You don't need to create pain to learn it. Let's talk about what you learned." They don't have to do what caused them pain again and again and again. You might say, "Remember? Look what happened. There was a big toy right there. You have to walk around toys unless you lift your leg up and put it over the top." Teach them what the experience was designed to accomplish.

Always, always put their attention on something joyful. Every day make sure you do that. Say, "What do we have to be thankful for today? What can we be joyful about today? What can we remember that will allow us to experience our divinity more clearly today?"

Talk to them about the angels, and about the devas. Have them ground by hugging trees from a very early age. Have them look at the little kingdoms as they're walking in the woods. Make sure they get exposure to everything natural. Everything natural. Take them to parks, to the mountains. Make sure they see all the phenomena of the force fields of nature as early as possible. Then they can read about something, visualize it, and find it in books and remember it because they've already experienced it energetically. When they see something in a book don't say, "That's a mountain, but we're never going to see a mountain because they are too far away." Take a trip to the mountains. Make sure the child has an energetic connection from a physical basis with everything it's going to learn about, as much as you can.

Say prayers at bedtime each night. Say, "I ask that we remember our divinity and that we create in every moment from our highest design and purpose." Teach the child to say from the time it's very little, "I ask to remember that I am divine. I remember my divinity. I ask to remember that I am divine, and I intend to create in every moment from my highest destiny, from my highest design."

Remember that your child is a gift to you, and that as you cherish the gift and nurture it, the light of the child will come into being in form. Its potential will be lived in the world. In a way, this is your greatest contribution, because the nurturance and the love and the light of one soul can change the world.

BIRTHING AND RAISING CHILDREN
TO LIVE THEIR POTENTIAL
AS BEINGS OF LIGHT

Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5

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